Please advise her responsibly

Mummy I never believed a day would come when my own heart would betray me. I’ve always been the type of woman who trusts her husband completely. I stay in Lagos because of work, while my husband lives and works in Abuja. Distance wasn’t easy, but I trusted him with my whole chest.

My younger sister lives closer to Abuja, so she always volunteered to check on him. I didn’t suspect anything after all, she’s my bl00d, my own sister. Anytime my husband needed food or help, she would rush there and tell me, Sister don’t worry I’ve cooked for him, I’ve cleaned, I’ve taken care of him. I thought she was doing it out of love for me.

But life has a way of exposing what’s done in the dark.

One weekend, my husband came home to Lagos unexpectedly. He said he missed me, and I was so happy. That night, he slept off on the couch after eating. Normally, I never touch his phone. I’m not that kind of woman. But that day, for reasons I still don’t understand, his phone kept lighting up with messages. Curiosity pushed me. I picked it up.
He forgot to lock it.

The first message I saw was from my younger sister:
“I’ll be there this weekend as usual. Should I cook the okra soup you like?” Hope you’re coming back soon. Missed you.

My heart dropped.

I opened the chat fully… and that was when my legs started shaking. Messages upon messages, Photos…
Voice notes, Memories from months back. Talks about how she spends every weekend there. how she cooks for him. how she “takes care” of him in ways I can’t write here.

Everything I thought was innocent. was a whole relationship behind my back.

I confronted him right there, shaking like a leaf. He broke down and confessed. He said it “happened once” but they “continued talking.” He thought it would end. I called my sister and she started crying, saying she didn’t know how to tell me, that it was a mistake, that she got too close.

To make it worse, her daughter. The one she had last year. I now understand why she never mentioned the father. My sister’s child, Is for my husband.

Till today, I still don’t know how I didn’t kpai that night. The betrayal from my sister cuts deeper than anything. The disappointment from my husband is a wound that won’t heal quickly.

I’m still in shock.
Still trying to breathe.
Still trying to understand how people you love the most can hide the biggest kn!ves behind their smiles.

I don’t know my next step yet. I haven’t spoken to any of them, families are begging but i think i am done with both of them.

From today you will never remain small again. You shall see increase in all aspects of your life.

Be PROUD of yourself! People have no idea how many SILENT battles you've survived just to stand where you're today.

Please advise her responsibly

Good evening mummy . I am a lady in my late 20, I have been married for 5years now. My husband come back once in a year, I am getting tired of the loneliness and lack of segz, though I have never ch€ated on him. I just feel I made a huge mistake. I have 2 kids for him, and I try to keep myself busy in order to avoid temptation. My husband. Doesn't have another wife apart from me, recently I asked him about our papers and he said he doesn't want us to come and live there permanently , but we can visit and go. I want to be together with my husband. I am really getting tired of the whole situation. Every time i ovulates i cry my eyes out because i will be so h00rny. My children are growing up with out him and it is making me unhappy. I need your advice please.

Please advice her responsibly

Mummy My husband woke up one morning and decided to marry a second wife, we didn't had any issues nor quarry even as l'm telling you preparation is going on, I have cried, I have begged my husband to at least tell me what I did and where I went wrong, heaven bears me witness that I have been a good wife to him, I have loved, care, respected, cherish and pampers him like I trust this man with my life but his just saying his decision is final and his not going back, this is someone we have been building from scratch and now God has blessed him this is how his paying me back. Please I need advice from your followers I'm depre$$ed and I may just end it all but I don't know what will become the faith of my children when I'm gone. Thank you and notify me

Things are happening oh! There is this cameronian girl, She normally travells from Cameroon to Nigeria to get goods for her business. Early this month her step mom and aunt decided to join her and travel to nigeria (their first time). Because of the festival period to get their own goods too, but they were later kidnapped while in Nigeria by someone she has always trusted, same person that show her around the markets in Nigeria. The kidnappers asked for 17million to secure their release. Their family sent the money, only to discover their parts in a river this morning. After collecting the ransom, they kpaied them. Jesus!!!

Please advise her responsibly

Good Afternoon , Please help me share my story on your wall for your audience's opinions.
I'm a 25-year-old lady working in a private company. is all about my boss, who is also the owner of the company. He is handsome, kind, and caring in fact, he is everything I need in a man. He is single. I don't know if he has a girlfriend, but all I know is that he isn't married. At first, I thought he loved me due to how he treated me. There was a time he invited me to his house so I could know where he lives. After staying for almost an hour, he still didn't make any advances. From there, I planned to make a move because I loved him.
I went to see a fetish priest, he made me pay 1.6million naira and gave me some directions. He gave me a powder brown like make up foundation and mascara to apply each day when going to work. He also instructed me not to eat anything at work until I see my boss everyday, for 3 solid days. On the third day, he unexpectedly grabbed me in his office when I sent some files. I knew the juju had worked. Well, I mellowed for us to have a good time.
It's been just 5 months now. He is already talking about settling down, and he has already met my family. He worships me,According to the priest, it's a 'forever' kind of thing, but I'm afraid to settle down with him. I genuinely love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him, but what if the effect clears off one day? This is someone who only liked me due to my enthusiastic nature towards his work; he didn't love me. So, what if this thing clears off one day while we are married? What will I do? Audience, please, what should I do?

Please advice her responsibly

Good morning mummy . I've been married 5years. I'm just not happy right now. And I don't know if there are other women in my shoes and how they cope.

We have two lovely kids. I work and earn more than hubby, I earn about 580k and hubby about 390k. I'm ok with this. But hubby has left all financial responsibilities to me. I told him that we should calculate what we spend a month and bring half of it each but he refused. Sometimes before the month end i will be owning so much. I try to save for the future but i can’t because the expenses is too much. Hubby lives above his means, he uses his money for his personal things.. I dare not complain or ask him for money cos he will say so with that my big salary I'm still looking at his.

The thing is, is this normal? I'm loosing it. I feel like a single mother just struggling a lot of times. He has never dropped 1 kobo for the children's clothes. Everything is on me. Most times I feel drained and this man will still complain with disgust that there is not enough Meat in the soup, I dare not put only 1 piece of meat on his plate.

Is this what marriage is about? I thot a man is supoosed to add value to me when i marry or is it a curse to earn more as a woman?.I haven't just come to complain I am seeking advise.

From my box

Mama I didn’t get back again because of my husband. Sorry to say I am part of those that married what I do not know.
My husband is this type that you will discuss with him and he will tell everyone .
I did not quickly know I already told him so much about my family . I told him about a lady in our street that is chasing a friends husband. Something happened , he is eating from a young lady in our compound I always warned him. That I do not like it is somehow . Your husband eating from such people . Even rumours starts to fly that they are sleeping together and I know that one is not true.
So that evening I came back from program. Met him outside the girl frontage helping her rinse plate while they were talking outside . Me and my husbabd engaged in a big argument. I spoke in urhobo ooo that what are you doing ? He said what does it look like ? I asked is that all you can say he said yes. I said but at home you forbid washing plate he said if to say I fine like her he for use to wash plate I could not hold it again. I started to blast him back. If I speak to him with language he will answer in English. This lady start to laugh.
He started saying that his wife is insecure, people yaps that day next thing he start to talk about how I accuse the other lady of sleeping with my friend husband and this girl in my yard is her friend.
The humiliation. That girl came around 8pm to knock door and started blasting me, tears started raining out of my eyes because my husband gave me out. He later apologized. Next day my husband was seen standing in front of the ladies house. I am tired what else can I do.