From my box

Good morning ma
Pls hide my id ma
I need advice from people

In 2024 ,I met this guy ,we are both working together then he asked me out and I accepted, he was so caring but people were fightingg him for dating me despite many girls in the company but he said am the one his heart is with
He always put me first
Along the line he told me he has a son but he and his mom are no longer together anymore. We continue our relationship and I can tell he loves me with his actions not until when one of his friends was giving me problems and i expect him to foughttt for me but he said I should just overlook his friend behavior ,fast forward to when the friend said why will he be serious with me. Last year February he needed to travel home and his transport fare is not yet complete
I dropped my iPhone x to sell to add it to the money and he got me an easy buy phone before he left when he came back everything was going smoothly
Fast-forward to may he said he is not longer interested and that particular friend told me he know where he is . So one day I came to his house without his knowledge and he bought a woman home so I left . By July he apologized and we settle it and he was taking care of me
So September last year his son need money for his school fees and he hasn't collected salary
So I gave him my laptop and the easy buy phone he got for me then to sell inorder to pay for the small child school fees
So I noticed he was cheatingg on me and I accused him and he denied but I later get evidence cus the so call girl he was cheatingg on came to his place to shout on me , during all this time his friend that is giving me problems was the one giving the girl energy on what to do
So October last year we settle again
So I was given house rent to pay in school but I don't want to spend it so I gave it to him to use cus I know he will give me back which leads to me staying in his house
November last year he introduced me to his family
Everything was going smoothly until December I noticed there is one particular girl who always called
So January 2026
He took me out and we got drunkkk so when it was 3:00 that particular girl called so when we wake up in the morning I accused him around 11am which leads to our fighttt and for the first time
He hhhit me ,that his friend that hates me bought another friend and that new friend said shebi they told my boyfriend to use me to play games but he refused to let go of me so that new friend wanted to beatttt me saying what am trying with him his wife can't do it she will be in the hospital now and I bought knif** out that anyone who touched me I will st$b the person
Immediately the friend started saying I want to kee my boyfriend
Leading to the neighbors intervention calling my mom to explain everything to her that the guy dey beatttt me
So we settle with the help of his other friend who got married last year
But since then he changed to me
So I was told recently that he has bought another woman to his place living with him and meanwhile this guy still came to my place on Sunday because he was the one who pay for my house rent since that one was with him ,sent me money
Yesterday his dad still ask if him from me but I don't know if I should inform his dad about everything
Ma this guy we soak garri together if there is nothing to eat
Most time I sort how we eat although he do spend if he has
Pls I need advice from my mom ,sister ,dad and brother

From my box

Even while my husband was celebrating my birthday he was on with his mistress.
See our chats and you wonder what exactly he is looking for. I do not even understand. Came home and saw all chats with this girl telling her my wife done Dey suspect me so I carry am go celebrate small with friends you will have me after the birthday. I stayed inside shower my ear deaf. I am so tired of this so called marriage and how it hurts so much . What do I even lack my booobs dis not fall I did not give birth with my vg I have flat tummy I work and earn well I don’t depend on him fully , I do not nag even after seeing this I have not said a word why is my husband doing this to me ?

From my box

Good morning ma
Pls hide my id ma
I need advice from people

In 2024 ,I met this guy ,we are both working together then he asked me out and I accepted, he was so caring but people were fightingg him for dating me despite many girls in the company but he said am the one his heart is with
He always put me first
Along the line he told me he has a son but he and his mom are no longer together anymore. We continue our relationship and I can tell he loves me with his actions not until when one of his friends was giving me problems and i expect him to foughttt for me but he said I should just overlook his friend behavior ,fast forward to when the friend said why will he be serious with me. Last year February he needed to travel home and his transport fare is not yet complete
I dropped my iPhone x to sell to add it to the money and he got me an easy buy phone before he left when he came back everything was going smoothly
Fast-forward to may he said he is not longer interested and that particular friend told me he know where he is . So one day I came to his house without his knowledge and he bought a woman home so I left . By July he apologized and we settle it and he was taking care of me
So September last year his son need money for his school fees and he hasn't collected salary
So I gave him my laptop and the easy buy phone he got for me then to sell inorder to pay for the small child school fees
So I noticed he was cheatingg on me and I accused him and he denied but I later get evidence cus the so call girl he was cheatingg on came to his place to shout on me , during all this time his friend that is giving me problems was the one giving the girl energy on what to do
So October last year we settle again
So I was given house rent to pay in school but I don't want to spend it so I gave it to him to use cus I know he will give me back which leads to me staying in his house
November last year he introduced me to his family
Everything was going smoothly until December I noticed there is one particular girl who always called
So January 2026
He took me out and we got drunkkk so when it was 3:00 that particular girl called so when we wake up in the morning I accused him around 11am which leads to our fighttt and for the first time
He hhhit me ,that his friend that hates me bought another friend and that new friend said shebi they told my boyfriend to use me to play games but he refused to let go of me so that new friend wanted to beatttt me saying what am trying with him his wife can't do it she will be in the hospital now and I bought knif** out that anyone who touched me I will st$b the person
Immediately the friend started saying I want to kee my boyfriend
Leading to the neighbors intervention calling my mom to explain everything to her that the guy dey beatttt me
So we settle with the help of his other friend who got married last year
But since then he changed to me
So I was told recently that he has bought another woman to his place living with him and meanwhile this guy still came to my place on Sunday because he was the one who pay for my house rent since that one was with him ,sent me money
Yesterday his dad still ask if him from me but I don't know if I should inform his dad about everything
Ma this guy we soak garri together if there is nothing to eat
Most time I sort how we eat although he do spend if he has
Pls I need advice from my mom ,sister ,dad and brother

From my box. Please let’s all pray for her

Mama my doctor booked me for cs and not a penny is on ground. I am carrying a set of twin. My husband is trying. Is just that alot happened . Loosing both my parents in fire accidents, my younger brother too. We did burial . My husband is a federal government worker with salary of 110k.
I even prayed with all my heart at a point for me to have miscarriag£ ……….. because I do not know if it is hunger we will face or thought of this pregnancy. Where I was teaching before that incident, this woman sacked me when I was grievingg. My staying alive is a testimony. I do not know where money will come from but I believe in God. Even though my mum Inlaw said let’s try a woman , she is a nurse but babys is bridged. I need prayers like never before . Before the 15th let miracle of God happen .

From my box

Good evening ma.
Please, I need your advice. There is a man who did my introduction and through him I got a job. My workplace is closer to where he stays, though not extremely close. Because we are planning to get married soon, I told him I would like to stay at his place for some time so I could easily go to work and so we could both save money and prepare for the marriage.
I stayed at his place for about two months. One day he suddenly told me that he needed space and wanted time to think, and that I should go back to my parents' house for now.
I called his mother and explained everything to her, and she tried to settle the issue between us which she did and he later asked for my forgiveness that night. The next day when he stepped outside to answer a phone call, I started packing my things because I wanted to leave, in my mind, I was like, why will he go outside to answer the call. My intention was that he would beg me.
but he asked why I wanted to leave when his mum had already settled the issue. He also asked if I really loved him, saying that if he didn’t love me, he wouldn’t have allowed me to stay with him.
The following day he again told me that he needed space and that he was serious about it. So I left and went back to my parents’ house. Since then he has been calling me, but I am confused and I don’t know if he truly loves me or not.
Please ma, I would really appreciate your advice.

From my box

Good Morning Ma,
Please I really need opinions on this. Hide my Id please.

I’ve been in a relationship with this guy for 2years+ (almost 3years) He’s kind, compassionate even to my family too, supports me in everything I do.. We can literally talk about everything concerning us. He isn’t rich but he’s comfortable for his age.
Though few months ago, I found out he was flirtinggg with another younger girl, I broke up with him because cheating is my deal breaker. He begged and begged and I later forgave him and told him that I won’t hesitate to walk away if it repeats itself. And even though I was so hhurt because I was loyal to him, I considered giving him another chance because of his numerous good qualities. And since then, he has tried so hard to be very honest and transparent to me which I really appreciate.

But the main issue now is that I just found out that he lied with his age from the very beginning. He told me he’s a year older than me which made it a bit hard for me to accept his proposal at first considering that I didn’t want to be in a relationship with my age mate at first, but his behavior towards me changed my mind. Now finding out we were born the same year and I’m even older than him with 2weeks+ is even more devastatinggg He opened up to me when we were having conversations about our future being that we’ve dated long enough and it’s the right thing to do.
He has been apologizing and said he was scared I won’t accept him because of this same age issue if I knew from the beginning.

I’m so confused on what decision to make because he ticks all the boxes on the qualities I want in a man. He’s mature for his age and doesn’t keep malice. We even hardly quarrel because of how he handles those issues. He fills me in on everything including his financial decisions too. I’ll be 28 in few months time.
I really need your advice on how to navigate this. I’m also seriously praying about it too.

From my box

Mama when will u start warning people from marrying illiteratesss especially proud ones??
My husband does not even know today is international women’s day , he never celebrates me untill I complain. I look back and I do not have anything to smile at. I foot both my bills and his 100 percent without a single complaint.
He is ok not giving anything. Yet when I want to file for a divorce he threatenz to kpai himself.

Note: it is not just about today’s own.
Always like that . Before we got married he was loaded and gave me . Even now I set him up twice he failed at business .
But I am not even talking about money. What about other things
Can he not do them ? Things done without money
Is long but I like to stop here.

From my box. Hmmmmmmm

Your wife went through it all, sufferedd to bring you the boy child that you have been praying to God 4 and your reward is to change her gas and give some change. This is a man that his father has houses worth billions . A man that will rather stay in a rented apartment than stay in one of his dad’s mansion. My sister is squeezed into this home. His mum that is wealthy will come and do omugwo in that house and be sleeping in this house . None of them are telling him the truth. We are not from a rich home but atleast my sister took her head in to marry a wealthy man . Never did we envisage this marriage. And he is very proud. He will never listen to my sister I live here and my sister keeps complaining. I need advice .yiu will see that immediately my sister recovers he will not allow her rest . He likes sxxx but can not do what my sister says . I am always seeing the sadnes in her eyes. I am divorced and that is why I am here otherwise this whole place is irritatingg me already.
I do not know what to call this if it’s ranting or something.

From my box. Nawa oo

I must begin carefully because matters like this touch cultur$, pride, family, and the fragile future a man is trying to build.
I am a 32-year-old man who has spent the better part of his youth working relentlessly to build a life that is stable, dignified, and respectable. I am not from a wealthy background. Everything I have today has come through discipline, sacrifice, and years of hustling.
Recently, as the marriage process progressed with the woman I intend to marry, her family presented what I can only describe as an overwhelming list of financial expectations. The bride price alone stands at approximately six million naira. When the matter of negotiation was raised, I was told quite firmly that because she is the first daughter, the “Ada” of the family, the amount is not subject to reduction.
Beyond that, a wedding planner’s projection for the ceremony itself has crossed twenty-five million naira.
When I sit down to add these figures together, I see a financial commitment well above thirty million naira. For someone who is still building his life from the ground up, that number is not merely large it is frightening.
I say this with honesty and without pride I am deeply worried.
Marriage, in my understanding, should mark the beginning of a partnership not the financial exhaustion of one party before the union even begins. I want to build a home, invest wisely, and create a future where both my wife and our children can live comfortably.
But I am beginning to fear that the expectations being placed on me could drain years of hard work in a single season.
And that fear is forcing me to ask difficult questions.
Is it wise to begin marriage under such intense financial pressureee?
Is it responsible for a young man who is still building stability to committ to obligations that could cripple him financially?
Or should I reconsider entirely before making a decision that may shape the rest of my life?
I truly want to settle down. I truly want to build a family. But I also believe that wisdom sometimes requires a man to pause and examine the path before him carefully.

At this moment, I am conflicted.
My woman is not making the matter easy .

From my box.

My story go long if I decide to write am as e dey do me
But I no go write am like that. So that people go feet read am. My sisters and brothers am married with four kids in the space of five years in marriage my husband is not wealthy neither am I we just managing but my husband want sleep wake inside me that one no even pain me his mum and sisters came to the house telling me I am lucky the mum say if it’s like so her late husband come near her that she will be happy that I am the envy of all women envy of all women kwa ? How many of my mate will accept him? Me that drank garri last year to the point that I fell inside gutteer when crossing ? I did not even see it well they started calling me the lucky one both mother and daughter this is me even sometimes that I bring my own I do kunu,zobo and buns and sell very well I can not lie they buy it but every blessed day I sleep late and wake up early . Why am I the envy of all women ? No be say her pinkin dey stay one place and b$d mouth start and finish in his place
What made me envy of all women?

Years ago my husband abandoned me and our children, only to return now asking for forgiveness.

I married my husband as a very young, naive church girl. My husband didn’t have much but we managed . We welcomed our first child 10 months after our wedding .

Then came another child even when the first was just a year and three months old . I practically carried them as twins. I had no help , my husband was barely at home . He goes out everyday either job hunting or just doing menial jobs so we could survive.

The money was never enough, but still my husband kept pressuring me to get pregnant for Another baby . I sat him down and explained why we should pause giving birth and focus on the ones we already have .

My husband didn’t even try to understand with me , rather he went on and on telling me how the whole essence of marriage is for procreation . He even went further to report me to our pastor, the pastor didn’t help either. The pastor , instead of being logical, he went on schooling me about submission and how my husband is the head and his words are final, so I should submit to my husband and do whatever he pleases.

All this while, we lived in a two-bedroom apartment, owned by one elder in church, elder Emmanuel. Elder Emmanuel sometimes would not take rent from us as a way of supporting my family. But then life happened, he fell ill and died from that illness. The family came and started fighting for his properties and sold them one after the other . And the apartment we were staying was also among the properties they sold . The new owner increased the rent so high , so for that we had to evacuate the apartment.

We went and rented a single room and was managing. The day we packed in , my husband stepped out for something urgently, when he got back , the children were already asleep and I put them on the bed while I arranged the mat for my husband and I to sleep on the floor.

My husband came back and asked that I let the kids sleep on the mat . I thought he was joking, because the mat will be too strong for their little body but my husband insisted.

I tried to persuade him so he could maybe join the children to sleep on the bed but he said no , they must sleep on the floor and him and I on the bed .

I told him there was no way I could do that to my kids , I rather feel the pains that let my kids feel it , as it is they are already suffering.

We sold some of our belongings so we could fit into the one room apartment and also raise money for a little business. The mattress was among the things we sold .

That night my husband and I went back and forth arguing and i begging him to manage.

My husband left the house angrily and that was the last time my husband came home to me and our children.

Few weeks later I found out my husband has a new………..

To be continued…….

Please tell me did I do wrong to have laid our kids on the mattress or my husband overreacted?

#storytelling

From my inbox
Good evening Mrs Ngozi
Pls post for me.
Right now I don't know what I need.
I'm confused.
So, I graduated 2020 gave birth that same year for my ex. He denied it. After DNA was done he was 99.9 match with my baby girl.
He didnt do anything for her until she clocked 2.
He started sending 20k 3times in a year. She started school, 1year plus, I have been the one funding her fees and taking care of all by myself.
He stopped sending the 20k because I didn't allow him to see her after threatening me to take her to another country with him..
I stopped talking to him.

When she clocked 2years, I was already in a relationship with someone else who's mother was sick and I helped him every possible way to keep her stable.
Even at midnight I would still rush down to meet him and his mum in the hospital with money and food..
I was that active, because I took her like my mum and also loved her son.
At this point he was still living with his mother.
I soon found out I was pregnant for him, I told him, he said he was coming to see my people, thinking he was coming to do the rites so I can be properly married to him, no he didn't... He just came and told my mom that he is responsible and he is not running away like the first one( I really felt embarrassed that day)

I had to put 100% pressure on him to get a place, because where I was people were looking at me somehow and he doesn't stay around my axis.

After 2 months he finally got a place because his mum threw his clothes outside because she feels she can't harbor a to be father..
We started staying together 2023 October ending..
He had nothing except his clothes, I brought bed, wardrobe, cylinder, utensils including pots, hot plate for cooking, table, few bucket, standing fan, baby things that I bought for my previous baby.. just to make a house look like a place where people lives..

I couldn't work because of change of location and my pregnancy at the time when I was with him I faced emotional and mental abuse, we even fought during pregnancy...
He was flirting with other ladies around even on his socials.
I faced hunger, I was happy my wasn't with me I had to drop her with my mum.

He mum told me to drink agbo for the baby to come out smoothly because I had CS for my previous baby ( my pelvic is small) I drank different types of agbo yet I delivered through CS last year April..
I had to take care of my baby boy for six months, then I started job hunting..
I have received different insults from him, he has never for once made me feel important or like did something at all..

My mum came for omugwo, she left with 'thank you ' she told me that she was not coming back to the house.
When my baby clocked six months, I started looking for jobs, I started working November last as a cashier in a hospital...
I do everything a wife will do before going to work, because he works from home so I left the baby with him.
After 1 week of staying with the baby he started complaining that I should stop working, even reported me to my mum that I wasn't doing anything in the house that he wants me to stop working.

Before working in a hospital, you will have run some test before resumption, so I did all those tests, it was later discovered that I was few months pregnant without me knowing, I tried taking the baby out, the GYNECOLOGIST said if I should try it, it will cause uterine rupture..so i was given a deadline at work to stop working.
I cried out my eyes when I saw my test results, because na only me no wetin I face ...

I'm currently at home 6months gone, empty bank account, I have lost respect in my family because no rites was being made..

I don't even have friends.
Nobody calls to check on me, I sometimes flash some people I know just to talk to someone.
Cos, most I'm home with him but I'm still lonely.
He constantly flirt with ladies of different types and sizes. On Instagram Facebook, collect their numbers and continue on Whatsapp..

We had an argument because he was comparing me with his former colleague ( female)
He compares me with everything that has breath and is a woman.

I hate comparism, makes me feel less of myself..
He talks me down, always reminding me of my past.
Most times at night, I just find myself crying...

I don't want this baby, I don't know if I could be a surrogate for someone instead kpai the baby myself..
Cos right now I'm depressed, I'm going through postpartum and I'm currently pregnant..
I thought about k, illing myself but I still thought about my baby girl with my mum and my son.

The fact him and his family don't see it important to perform marriage rites, ( I just want something small)

Should I be begging for something to done on my head?
My younger sister is properly married.
I feel ashamed of myself.
Whenever I'm asked if I'm single or married I don't know what to say.

I get in, sults from him e.g baby factory, that I'm a bag of rice, useless etc I'm in tears like this.

Please help me, I don't know what I need right now.
I'm depressed and pre