From my box

Post and notify me. I have Been a gud wife, I open up to my husband about everything. I give money to him .my husband has betrayed me and I couldn’t sleep till morning. I saved 20m with hm . I was gathering it for me to start building this year . He took it and gave his side chick and the only money left is not upto 5m. Everyone is begging me. How can I be feeding a man, kids and doing everything for us to succeed and he will be doing his own. Please I am beyond sadd. I als don’t even know what to do.

From my box. Hmmm its well with you

If you have not experienced domesticcc violenceee, you will sit comfortably and assume everyone else is exaggerating.I am an academic.
I graduated with First Class honours from the university.Before you attempt to lecture me on marriage, understand that I am not ignorant.
I am not stranded and not dependent.
I am a proud owner of a five-bedroom apartment in Lekki.
I am not small in any sense of the word.
Most of you cannot even relate to the level I operate on.
The reason I am stating these facts is simple.
If I wanted to leave this marriage, I would have left.
No one needs to advise me.i know what is keeping me here.And for now, I am not leaving, so you can discard that suggestion.
What I will not tolerateee, however, is disrespect disguised as family bonding.My husband’s family expects me to bow.They are rudeee, arroganttt, and entitledddd.
I do not covet their brother’s money.i am financially comfortable. I am well to do.
But how does a brother-in-law walk into my kitchen, open my pot, and dish my food without permission?
On what planet is that acceptable?
His sister, whom I am older than by two years, moved in and had the audacity to take soup from my freezer, defrost it, and prepare semo as though she owns the house.
I returned and corrected her physically.
Yes, I slapp*d her and told her never to repeat it.
They both teamed up against me.This happened yesterday. This picture is my mouth, how they lefft me.
I went straight to my husband’s office exactly as I was.He dismissed me and told me to go home.
By evening, the narrative had been twisted.He believed their version and i became the villain.He called me toxiccccc, how he is tired.
He threatenedddd separation if it continues.
Interesting.When boundaries are enforced, they suddenly become toxicityyyy.
Now I am told that spirituallyyy that his mother has orchestrated confusion in this marriage and that the siblings are instruments.
Whether spiritual or psychological, what I know is this.
I refuse to be disrespecteddd in my own home.
Pray for me if you will.But do not mistake my composure for weakness.i am intelligent.
I am accomplished.
And I will not shrink to make anyone comfortable.
This is my stance and without a mann i will still shine

From my box.

Hide my identity let me remain anonymous. People I told my husband is this and that will insult me. My husband write anything he likes on fb……. He will be telling girls he loves their booob publicly and privately. He flirttt without recourse.
Sometimes he will be trollledd, he returns the favour . He works and earn well but spend one and half of his time on fb.
I have reported to everyone, they keep saying he is catching cruise . This morning they are tr0lling me and my kids because of him . He called a woman uggly and they carried our picture.
How else can I tell this man that what he is doing is bringing disrespect?

From my box

Good afternoon ma
Please post and conceal my id ma

I got married 4yrs ago,before marriage was a single mother with a daughter.my husband knew everything there is nothing about her I withheld from him,including my daughter’s health challengez .he showed her love and care still.we have 2boys together now with my daughter making 3kids.everything was going on well,until late last year he started having financiallll issues,contracts wasn’t coming in often,we were still managing ourselves and praying to God for a change.for sometime I noticed he changed towards my daughter.treating her harshlyyy knowing she is a special childsddd,can’t see.i had to call him for a talk.it was then he opened up and told me our pastor told him that my daughter is possess&d with wickedddd spirit that is hindering is progress that he should send my daughter away from his house before he can prosper.he said he confirmed from someone else his siblings took him to and they equally said same.there was a time when he equally accusedd me of such,he later apologized and I let go for peace sake.this time around I couldn’t watch him and his siblings give my daughter such a badddd stigmaaa.i went to my family also to report was going on.my elder brother called him and my husband was shouting at him.before I could even get home he went and took my son from school before closing time and lock me outside our house.I called him countlessly no response.it was later I realized he took my son to his sister and the sister never called me in all this before taking sides with his brother.it on my way to his sister’s house I saw him and took my son from him.then my sister came called my sister inlaw to talk to her then she started insultingg my elder sister.we walk down to her house.she insultedd i and my family and i retaliated for the first time i married her brother.note my husband had nothing when we met,he was even leaving with his sister then.his life now is far better than before.I really don’t know how my daughter is responsible for his problems.right now am at my brother’s house with my children and my dad already called him to come with his pastor and family for a meeting.am planning to tell my family to return his bride price so everyone can go their separate ways.please house am I the one at fault here and am not realizing it

Sorry for the long post.

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From my box. Nawa

Good morning sis, pls help me post this 🙏🏾
I don’t want to make a mistake in how I handle this issue.
Yesterday, on Valentine’s Day, I had my baby, and my husband surprised me with a deep freezer and flowers. However, a friend told me that a deep freezer shouldn’t be considered a push gift because it is something the whole household will use.
This made me start thinking, because when I had my first child, he bought a washing machine, which everyone in the house still uses till today. Although, he usually buys these items in my name.
Please, I need your advice. Is it wrong if I confront him about this?

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From my box. Some stories sha .

I said let me update the house, i am the one that posted in December last year about d0mestic vawulence and everyone insulttted me. They said i should leave . Why i did not leave earlier is because my family said is going to dent their image so i should stay there. But i have left and today I feel like if I don’t write and give update i will be hurtt too much . I got married in 2021 with hope and prayers, after dating for two years without a single sign of what was coming, and it was only after marriage that I realized I married someone completely different from the person I knew. The first time he be*t me, I kept asking myself what I did wrong, because all I did was cook food he didn’t like, and from that day the vawulence became normal even while I was pregnant. I cried, I called my parents, and I was told to endure and stay, so I stayed because I didn’t know what else to do. When I went into labor with my first child, I called my husband and he didn’t answer because he was with another woman, and I gave birth alone until a friend helped me pay my hospital bills. I endured again, came back to the house because my mum Is cwo president and her child can not fail in marriage .
When i returned back he started making luv to me again because if i say no no food for me and i was breafeeding. I got pregnant again and he was beattting me with his younger brother.

I was shouting andbegging them. I said if you can not show me mercy show your child i am carrying mercy.
Why were they doing that ? I got to his store and met his side chick and confronted her. That was all, and one day I ran out of the house with my children because I knew I would not survive if I stayed. I returned to my family house believing it would be safe, but it was not, and I learned that sometimes the place you run to for refuge is also full of painn. I have known hunger, sickness without money, and fear that never sleeps, I have watched my children suffer while I stay quiet and strong, I have been told my suffering is my luck and that I should go back to painn so others can look respectable. Today I am tired, tired of asking what I did to deserve this life, tired of being gentle and still punished, tired of being strong when I am empty. There are days I don’t eat, days my children don’t eat, days I choose between food and medicine, days I apply for jobs with shaking hands and faith that feels very small. I am writing because silence is keeling me.
I am doubting myself so much today, who created me? Why is my story like this ?
Ok why can’t God just exempt mothers from suffering even for the sake of their children?
Husband house I faced issues, here issues too
My younger brother even raised his handz at me. My mum said i deserve it .
Since on Thursday now, my kids have not eaten anything tangible, I haven’t even eaten anything at all, ulcer is disturbing me, back pain and all
Please I am in uyo if anyone have a job for me please help me. My baby is 8 months now, a job that can allow me go with baby. Also beg God for me, I am tired and thinking to do somethings I pray he forgives me if I do it because he doesn’t want to help . I am very tired already .

From my box. This is so so sweet.

Good morning my people, let me use today to encourage every man reading this to please take your wife out, show her love, no matter how little, just make out time for her without the children, do something intentionally to make your woman happy because her happiness will always return to you. Yesterday I took my wife out because I am traveling today and I would not be around, and it reminded me again why I made a deliberate decision years ago to always prioritize my home. My wife came from an abusiv-e background, her parents separated when she was young and for a long time she believed menn were mean and incapable of love, so when I met her I told myself that whatever her past taught her, my present would heal it. I do not own the world, but I resolved to give her everything within my capacity, to love her deliberately, to cherish her intentionally, and to protect her peace, and I have done that from the day I married her till now. Today she is a marriage counsellor and therapist, not by coincidence, but because love reshaped her confidence and restored her faith in partnership, and every day I sit with her, I guide her, I listen to her, I learn her, because love is not automatic, it is intentional. I was raised in a home where love was taught as responsibility,
my parents always told us that when you marry, your wife and children come before everyone else, even before your parents, and my mother said clearly that if she asks me for money and my wife asks me, I must attend to my wife first, because your home is your first ministry. I married my wife at 27, she was 22, because I wanted us to grow together, enjoy our youth together and grow old together, and till today I am grateful for that decision. Yesterday we went out, we ate, we laughed, we connected, and I woke up this morning to a note from my wife saying that if she came to this world again she would marry me even earlier, and that alone gave me fulfillment because a man’s joy is seeing his woman secure and happy. My fellow men, nothing in this world is more important than family, money, status, achievements, all of it only makes sense if it is used to protect and care for your home. Love is not about poverty or wealth, because even with house helps, nannies and security, I still wash my wife’s car myself sometimes and leave her notes, not because I have to, but because love is service. I come from a lineage of men who love their wives, my younger brother is married and treats his wife with care, my elder brother does the same, and my parents till today are still best friends, and that is the legacy that matters. Please, let us raise godly homes, let us choose love daily, let us be men our wives can rest in, because at the end of this life, nothing else truly counts.

From my box

Happy new week, ma. Please help me post this anonymously.

I couldn’t sleep last night. I kept asking myself what I did wrong and where things went wrong.

My fiancee and I have our introduction coming up in April, and we’re supposed to get married in September. He has been under a lot of financial pressure because he’s building a duplex and now they are in interrior . He has complained severally about money, and I’ve always tried to be understanding because he says he wants us to move into our own house after marriage and not rent.

Yesterday, he called and said we should go out. Around that time, my childhood friend said she wanted to follow me, and I allowed her. When we got to the restaurant and he saw that I came with someone, his mood changed instantly. He didn’t even try to hide his angerrr, not even in front of my friend. It was obvious and embarrassingg.

After we ate, he paid and left. Later, he started sending me messages, saying that if we were already married and he told me he was having financial difficulties, I wouldn’t know how to make his life easy. He asked why I would bring someone along when I knew he didn’t have money. He said he didn’t ask for an extra person and that it wasn’t as if he had invited me out just to entertain others.
He then brought up an old issue that this same girl once lied that he toasted her. I already investigated that matter, found out it was a lie, and I made her apologize to him, which she did. I told him to let it go because she is my childhood friend and I can’t just throw away a long-term friendship over a misunderstanding that was already resolved.

To be honest, the girl herself arely even touched the food. We didn’t order anything extravagant he chose the restaurant, a Chinese place, and said he wanted me to try new dishes.
I spoke to him about bringing her along and explained my intentions, but he still said I don’t love or appreciate him. He said I value everyone more than my future husband and that this relationship might not work because anytime he complains, I “argue.” I wasn’t arguing I was explaining.

Now he’s talking about ending the relationship, all because of food and the presence of a friend.

Honestly, I’m confused. I don’t know if I truly did something wrong, or if this reaction is deeper than what happened yesterday.

Please, I want sincere advice.
Note: the girl herself is always afraid when she see him and she already apologized . But he wants me ro cut ties.

From my box. Wow! Big big congratulations

I am honestly speechless. I don’t even have the right words.
This is my friend who turned sister not by blo0d, but by heart. A woman who became my safe place, my support, my all-in-all. She’s the one who introduced me to this person. She is married, settled, and yet she has always wanted the very best for me not out of competition, but out of pure love.

When he proposed, she was right there, holding my hands, saying “let’s snap.” In that moment, I knew how blessed I am to have her in my life.

I bless God for a friend like this. A friend who prays for you, believes in you, and celebrates you without envy . Not everyone gets this kind of friendship, and I don’t take it for granted.

For every single person trusting God for love, companionship, and genuine support may God surround you with people who want your joy as much as their own. May your testimony come suddenly and sweetly. And may love locate you in the most beautiful way. 🙏🏽

From my box. Love is sweet eh
Good morning to everyone here.

My name is Nkiru ,I am from Anambra State. I am a barrister and I work with a private firm. I am sharing this today to highlight the importance of having the right people and values in one’s life.

I grew up with very supportive parents and elder sisters who have always been role models to my siblings and me. Although we did not come from a very wealthy background, you could never tell. My mother taught us how to carry ourselves with dignity, how to present ourselves properly, and how never to allow our background to limit our mindset or our expectations. She constantly reminded us that where we come from should never define what we deserve.
Because of this upbringing, I did not date while I was in school. My sisters advised that since we were not from a very wealthy home, my focus should be on my education. I took that advice seriously and did not have a boyfriend until my final year. Unfortunately, that first relationship made me start questioning my self-worth. I began to feel as though I did not deserve better.
I called my eldest sister and told her everything. After listening carefully, she simply said, End the relationship. There was no hesitation. She asked if I trusted her, and when I said yes, she told me to end it immediately. I did and that decision changed my life.
After I began practicing , I met someone who showed me what healthy love truly looks like. He was kind, patient, and intentional. I made my boundaries very clear, and he respected them completely without pressure, without arguments. He never asked questions that were inappropriate, and he never made me feel less than enough. He simply respected me
Six months into the relationship, he proposed. We did things the right way family introductions, proper steps, and mutual respect. In December, we got married. Our honeymoon remains one of the most cherished memories of my life simple, loving, and filled with peace.
My husband took me to capetown and there we sat in our hotel room that was peaceful. He kiss*d me , and while we were playing i didnt even know when he put it in, i felt just a little pain. He was shocked to know that i kept myself. That was the most beautiful day of my life. I remember and still blush.

Shortly after, I realized I had missed my period. I was meant to see it on January 15, but it never came. I took a pregnancy test and it was positive. I was overwhelmed with gratitude.

At 25 years old, I feel compelled to share this with young women, please value yourself. Do not settle because of pressure. Do not allow anyone to make you feel like love must be forced or negotiated. Marry a man who respects you, values you, and is worthy of you. If you must wait, wait. What is meant for you will come with peace.

Thank you for reading.

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