From my box. Please let’s all pray for her

Mama my doctor booked me for cs and not a penny is on ground. I am carrying a set of twin. My husband is trying. Is just that alot happened . Loosing both my parents in fire accidents, my younger brother too. We did burial . My husband is a federal government worker with salary of 110k.
I even prayed with all my heart at a point for me to have miscarriag£ ……….. because I do not know if it is hunger we will face or thought of this pregnancy. Where I was teaching before that incident, this woman sacked me when I was grievingg. My staying alive is a testimony. I do not know where money will come from but I believe in God. Even though my mum Inlaw said let’s try a woman , she is a nurse but babys is bridged. I need prayers like never before . Before the 15th let miracle of God happen .

From my box

Good evening ma.
Please, I need your advice. There is a man who did my introduction and through him I got a job. My workplace is closer to where he stays, though not extremely close. Because we are planning to get married soon, I told him I would like to stay at his place for some time so I could easily go to work and so we could both save money and prepare for the marriage.
I stayed at his place for about two months. One day he suddenly told me that he needed space and wanted time to think, and that I should go back to my parents' house for now.
I called his mother and explained everything to her, and she tried to settle the issue between us which she did and he later asked for my forgiveness that night. The next day when he stepped outside to answer a phone call, I started packing my things because I wanted to leave, in my mind, I was like, why will he go outside to answer the call. My intention was that he would beg me.
but he asked why I wanted to leave when his mum had already settled the issue. He also asked if I really loved him, saying that if he didn’t love me, he wouldn’t have allowed me to stay with him.
The following day he again told me that he needed space and that he was serious about it. So I left and went back to my parents’ house. Since then he has been calling me, but I am confused and I don’t know if he truly loves me or not.
Please ma, I would really appreciate your advice.

From my box

Mama when will u start warning people from marrying illiteratesss especially proud ones??
My husband does not even know today is international women’s day , he never celebrates me untill I complain. I look back and I do not have anything to smile at. I foot both my bills and his 100 percent without a single complaint.
He is ok not giving anything. Yet when I want to file for a divorce he threatenz to kpai himself.

Note: it is not just about today’s own.
Always like that . Before we got married he was loaded and gave me . Even now I set him up twice he failed at business .
But I am not even talking about money. What about other things
Can he not do them ? Things done without money
Is long but I like to stop here.

From my box. Hmmmmmmm

Your wife went through it all, sufferedd to bring you the boy child that you have been praying to God 4 and your reward is to change her gas and give some change. This is a man that his father has houses worth billions . A man that will rather stay in a rented apartment than stay in one of his dad’s mansion. My sister is squeezed into this home. His mum that is wealthy will come and do omugwo in that house and be sleeping in this house . None of them are telling him the truth. We are not from a rich home but atleast my sister took her head in to marry a wealthy man . Never did we envisage this marriage. And he is very proud. He will never listen to my sister I live here and my sister keeps complaining. I need advice .yiu will see that immediately my sister recovers he will not allow her rest . He likes sxxx but can not do what my sister says . I am always seeing the sadnes in her eyes. I am divorced and that is why I am here otherwise this whole place is irritatingg me already.
I do not know what to call this if it’s ranting or something.

From my box. Nawa oo

I must begin carefully because matters like this touch cultur$, pride, family, and the fragile future a man is trying to build.
I am a 32-year-old man who has spent the better part of his youth working relentlessly to build a life that is stable, dignified, and respectable. I am not from a wealthy background. Everything I have today has come through discipline, sacrifice, and years of hustling.
Recently, as the marriage process progressed with the woman I intend to marry, her family presented what I can only describe as an overwhelming list of financial expectations. The bride price alone stands at approximately six million naira. When the matter of negotiation was raised, I was told quite firmly that because she is the first daughter, the “Ada” of the family, the amount is not subject to reduction.
Beyond that, a wedding planner’s projection for the ceremony itself has crossed twenty-five million naira.
When I sit down to add these figures together, I see a financial commitment well above thirty million naira. For someone who is still building his life from the ground up, that number is not merely large it is frightening.
I say this with honesty and without pride I am deeply worried.
Marriage, in my understanding, should mark the beginning of a partnership not the financial exhaustion of one party before the union even begins. I want to build a home, invest wisely, and create a future where both my wife and our children can live comfortably.
But I am beginning to fear that the expectations being placed on me could drain years of hard work in a single season.
And that fear is forcing me to ask difficult questions.
Is it wise to begin marriage under such intense financial pressureee?
Is it responsible for a young man who is still building stability to committ to obligations that could cripple him financially?
Or should I reconsider entirely before making a decision that may shape the rest of my life?
I truly want to settle down. I truly want to build a family. But I also believe that wisdom sometimes requires a man to pause and examine the path before him carefully.

At this moment, I am conflicted.
My woman is not making the matter easy .

From my box.

My story go long if I decide to write am as e dey do me
But I no go write am like that. So that people go feet read am. My sisters and brothers am married with four kids in the space of five years in marriage my husband is not wealthy neither am I we just managing but my husband want sleep wake inside me that one no even pain me his mum and sisters came to the house telling me I am lucky the mum say if it’s like so her late husband come near her that she will be happy that I am the envy of all women envy of all women kwa ? How many of my mate will accept him? Me that drank garri last year to the point that I fell inside gutteer when crossing ? I did not even see it well they started calling me the lucky one both mother and daughter this is me even sometimes that I bring my own I do kunu,zobo and buns and sell very well I can not lie they buy it but every blessed day I sleep late and wake up early . Why am I the envy of all women ? No be say her pinkin dey stay one place and b$d mouth start and finish in his place
What made me envy of all women?

From my inbox
Good evening Mrs Ngozi
Pls post for me.
Right now I don't know what I need.
I'm confused.
So, I graduated 2020 gave birth that same year for my ex. He denied it. After DNA was done he was 99.9 match with my baby girl.
He didnt do anything for her until she clocked 2.
He started sending 20k 3times in a year. She started school, 1year plus, I have been the one funding her fees and taking care of all by myself.
He stopped sending the 20k because I didn't allow him to see her after threatening me to take her to another country with him..
I stopped talking to him.

When she clocked 2years, I was already in a relationship with someone else who's mother was sick and I helped him every possible way to keep her stable.
Even at midnight I would still rush down to meet him and his mum in the hospital with money and food..
I was that active, because I took her like my mum and also loved her son.
At this point he was still living with his mother.
I soon found out I was pregnant for him, I told him, he said he was coming to see my people, thinking he was coming to do the rites so I can be properly married to him, no he didn't... He just came and told my mom that he is responsible and he is not running away like the first one( I really felt embarrassed that day)

I had to put 100% pressure on him to get a place, because where I was people were looking at me somehow and he doesn't stay around my axis.

After 2 months he finally got a place because his mum threw his clothes outside because she feels she can't harbor a to be father..
We started staying together 2023 October ending..
He had nothing except his clothes, I brought bed, wardrobe, cylinder, utensils including pots, hot plate for cooking, table, few bucket, standing fan, baby things that I bought for my previous baby.. just to make a house look like a place where people lives..

I couldn't work because of change of location and my pregnancy at the time when I was with him I faced emotional and mental abuse, we even fought during pregnancy...
He was flirting with other ladies around even on his socials.
I faced hunger, I was happy my wasn't with me I had to drop her with my mum.

He mum told me to drink agbo for the baby to come out smoothly because I had CS for my previous baby ( my pelvic is small) I drank different types of agbo yet I delivered through CS last year April..
I had to take care of my baby boy for six months, then I started job hunting..
I have received different insults from him, he has never for once made me feel important or like did something at all..

My mum came for omugwo, she left with 'thank you ' she told me that she was not coming back to the house.
When my baby clocked six months, I started looking for jobs, I started working November last as a cashier in a hospital...
I do everything a wife will do before going to work, because he works from home so I left the baby with him.
After 1 week of staying with the baby he started complaining that I should stop working, even reported me to my mum that I wasn't doing anything in the house that he wants me to stop working.

Before working in a hospital, you will have run some test before resumption, so I did all those tests, it was later discovered that I was few months pregnant without me knowing, I tried taking the baby out, the GYNECOLOGIST said if I should try it, it will cause uterine rupture..so i was given a deadline at work to stop working.
I cried out my eyes when I saw my test results, because na only me no wetin I face ...

I'm currently at home 6months gone, empty bank account, I have lost respect in my family because no rites was being made..

I don't even have friends.
Nobody calls to check on me, I sometimes flash some people I know just to talk to someone.
Cos, most I'm home with him but I'm still lonely.
He constantly flirt with ladies of different types and sizes. On Instagram Facebook, collect their numbers and continue on Whatsapp..

We had an argument because he was comparing me with his former colleague ( female)
He compares me with everything that has breath and is a woman.

I hate comparism, makes me feel less of myself..
He talks me down, always reminding me of my past.
Most times at night, I just find myself crying...

I don't want this baby, I don't know if I could be a surrogate for someone instead kpai the baby myself..
Cos right now I'm depressed, I'm going through postpartum and I'm currently pregnant..
I thought about k, illing myself but I still thought about my baby girl with my mum and my son.

The fact him and his family don't see it important to perform marriage rites, ( I just want something small)

Should I be begging for something to done on my head?
My younger sister is properly married.
I feel ashamed of myself.
Whenever I'm asked if I'm single or married I don't know what to say.

I get in, sults from him e.g baby factory, that I'm a bag of rice, useless etc I'm in tears like this.

Please help me, I don't know what I need right now.
I'm depressed and pre

From my box. Hmmm . Nawa

Is this not a threaten!ng
Wai
This guy with me we date close to upto 2 years I no how much this guy make but will never dim it fit to give me. He will never at all .
He is this type that have but will be giving you stupend
He has not give me upto 2m in this years the day he went to buy phone last year he buy himself iPhone and give me android . Is from that day I pinch myself
Just like that he chat me that I should come that he is sorry he can no longer continue because my mother advice him to put me on salary . She told him is not compulsory but do it so she won’t go outside .
He said why my mum say such I said is an advice throw or use it
Mama this was all like a joke she said this thing he broke up with me so I carried his phone
He just bought iPhone 17 pro max and I carried while leaving . See his message is this not a case ? Like going to station to tell p0lice or lawyers in the house is this not threateningg?

From my box

Mummy i don’t even know how to start this.
I was just diagnosed with brain cancer.
And have never been married.i have no child.No job.
And now this.i just sit and ask God why me?
I kept myself. I’m still a virgin.i have tried to live right.
I know my Bible. I trust God.i am not perfect, but I love Him.My wedding is in April. This April.
And yesterday they told me I have cancer of the brain.How does someone plan a wedding and then hear something like this?

I am scared and I am confused.
I am hurting in places words cannot explain.
It feels like everything I prayed for is slipping through my fingers before it even begins.
Mummy Mel, please pray for me.Pray that God remembers me.Pray that mercy speaks for me.
Pray that this will not be the end of my story.
I still trust God…But right now, my faith is trembling.
Please stand with me in prayer.

I am in hot tears . Oh lord why did you forsake me .

From my Box

Good morning Mummy Mel
Please kindly post for me and hide my ID
It's really funny how your spouse can turn you into something you are not
The constant complains that is tagged nagging
When I married my husband there wasn't any trace to know something like this was going on
After we got married,he was always on his phone,even in the restroom he is always with his phone
You cannot find his phone unlocked
At first I didn't give it much thought because I never wanted anything that will disrupt my peace
For some days unlike him he slept off with his phone open and I saw the shocking thing I have ever seen

A message of him telling his supposed friend that the night they both had together was hot
This particular friend brought his attention that his wife might see this
He never stopped
I kept seeing other messages which I am finding it difficult to type her

And guess what the man I married was never remorseful
This is two years now and the painss hasn't gone from my heart
He once casually said sorry and it was just common
He keeps telling me I read meaning into everything

That those messages, both happened
For someone that stays awake chatting till midnight
Someone that enjoys making dirty jokes

How do I clear this hatred and have peace
I have been finding it very difficult to forgive,at any slightest annoyance I raise what he did and it turns into a heated argument.....

My heart is so fragile and it hurtss me so much

Please I want to find my peace back
I want to focus on my growth and success
If there's any book share with me
If there's any advice please kindly advise me
I run an online business but sometimes sales is slow
I want more for my self

From my box. Hmmm, Nawa !

Please notify me when I post this because I need to read every single comment. I honestly dnt even know how to start because I am already feeling like I committed a crimee. So my step sister had a fl!ng with a man, they had a child, he is taking care of his child but they are not together and have never been together as a couple. Fast forward, this same man fell in love with me. Yes, me. In a short time he has done so much for me, even bought me a brand new tear rubber car . My mum knows about us and how serious it is. Now he has engaged me and says he wants to see my father. Here is the problem my step sister has already run to report me to my dad that am dating her baby father. My dad is very strictt and when he asked me, I denied it. So now tell me, is it a crimeee to marry a man who never loved her? Is there a law that says once a man has a child with someone, every woman in her extended family must avoid him forever? Or am I suddenly wickedd for choosing someone who chose me? Because the way everybody is behaving, you would think I stolee a husband, not a man who was single and available. So what exactly did I do wrong?
Note: I already shared my engagement with you ma, even on my wall but how do I tell my dad.

From my box.

My story go long if I decide to write am as e dey do me
But I no go write am like that. So that people go feet read am. My sisters and brothers am married with four kids in the space of five years in marriage my husband is not wealthy neither am I we just managing but my husband want sleep wake inside me that one no even pain me his mum and sisters came to the house telling me I am lucky the mum say if it’s like so her late husband come near her that she will be happy that I am the envy of all women envy of all women kwa ? How many of my mate will accept him? Me that drank garri last year to the point that I fell inside gutteer when crossing ? I did not even see it well they started calling me the lucky one both mother and daughter this is me even sometimes that I bring my own I do kunu,zobo and buns and sell very well I can not lie they buy it but every blessed day I sleep late and wake up early . Why am I the envy of all women ? No be say her pinkin dey stay one place and b$d mouth start and finish in his place
What made me envy of all women?